As some people have noticed, I haven’t been active on Facebook for some time now. I thought I would explain my reasons for no longer using this service and offer a means for people to keep in touch and up to date with my goings on.
I used to update my status occasionally but check other people’s updates regularly throughout the day. Facebook would often be my destination in the morning and I would browse through my friends updates over my breakfast. I would also follow various news sites and groups/pages sharing opinions and debates on various issues. In an attempt to keep my views balanced (and limit the risk of being exposed to fake news) I followed a range of outlets often with wildly different opinions to my own.
Over time, the posts I engaged with the most were these controversial posts and not updates from my friends and family which Facebook picked up on. Progressively, I was fed more and more controversial opinions which was leading me down a path of getting riled up first thing in the morning – setting up my day on a pretty horrible trajectory.
I also felt like the platform was actually making myself and my friends more disconnected. Rather than catching up and talking, we would just read each others quick status updates. I can’t count the number of times when someone (often who I barely knew) would come up to me at a party or event and spoke to me like they knew how my life was going simply based on a Facebook post.
I persevered for a long time in full knowledge of these facts as my morning Facebook ritual and mid-day time sink had become ritualistic until one morning when I was speaking with a friend about the 2017 same sex marriage plebiscite. Being both on the same side of the issue, we were discussing a meme that frustrated us both and got us talking about the politics of it all. Hearing how frustrated my friend became was like looking in to a mirror. I offered her some advice that she should stop reading social media first thing in the morning as it was more aggravating than anything else and had become a distraction to her having a happy, productive day. A split second later, realising I was a massive hypocrite, I made the commitment to stop using Facebook.
Honestly, I haven’t looked back since. I don’t miss the mindless updates, unnecessary outrage and endless stream of disagreement. I’ve also managed to cut out a distraction from my day and free up valuable time so I can be more productive – goodbye to endless scrolling looking for something interesting. On the downside, I have to be more active in my own social life and consciously engage with friends more. Scheduling is also made a little more difficult since most of my peers continue to use Facebook events to organise things.
Keeping in touch
Firstly, I plan to write on here when I have something to say. Instead of status updates (which were increasingly becoming essays) I will write longer form blog posts on here. These will be cross posted to Facebook automatically but I won’t see any comments or likes from there. Feel free to have discussions but I won’t see them. It might be easier to follow the rss feed if you also are reducing social media.
I still use Facebook messenger (it’s more personal, convenient and universal than other chat apps) so feel free to contact me directly on there.
You can also always email me or maybe even have a conversation in person!
Finally, I will avoid posting finance/money related topics here as I have a separate site dedicated to my professional side. Feel free to come and visit over there and follow that page separately if you like my thoughts on finance and money.